"No hands on you at all- not in your hair or on your shoulders if you become distressed?" He nods even as he pokes about the specifics. The more he knows, the better care he might be able to take of Cade. "For me- when things become like this and I am on the other end- I do not like being held by the back of my neck."

Sometimes offering ideas can help along the understanding of someone that is new to this. "I do not care to be told I have no worth nor set up to fail. Some people enjoy that but- I do not. And that is not the purpose of this for you, I think."