"Some enjoy pretending to struggle." He shrugs- it is not what he enjoys himself but hey. You do you. "Alright. Cross your wrists? I shall bind you, blow you, and if you are still up for it afterward, take you against the wall. Agreeable, yes?"

It will take some of the surprise out of it- but whenever ropes and words become involved and he is with a new partner he makes a point of outlining what he intends. It's not quite a full negotiation but a more acceptable shorthand for flings.